The unexpected power of support groups

Trix is a young adult carer for both her mum, who has fibromyalgia, and her brother, who has type 1 diabetes. Her responsibilities include refilling medication, collecting prescriptions, and providing emotional support. The role has added a lot of stress to her life, with Trix often feeling like she’s taken on a parental role with additional responsibilities.

A break from caring

When Trix heard about the My Future residential, she was so excited. Having attended the year before, she remembered how much she had enjoyed the experience. The residential was a chance to get away for a couple of days, like a mini holiday, something she was not able to do with her family.

Trix loved the mix of the activities: canoeing, rifle shooting, campfires and roasting marshmallows, axe throwing and the giant swing, coupled with the comfort of being around others who shared an unspoken understanding of what it’s like to be a carer, without the need to explain.

Talking to those who ‘get it’

A memorable moment for Trix occurred on the second night, sitting outside at a picnic bench late in the evening. The group found themselves naturally opening up about their caring role. “It was so comforting talking with others who truly understood”. Sharing experiences with other carers who had similar but not identical journeys was a relief. Trix described the experience as “really lovely,” appreciating the chance to connect with others who “get it.”

Reset before college

The timing of the break, just before the start of the school year, helped Trix reset for college. After difficult summers, the opportunity to get away and recharge was invaluable.

Support from regular groups

My Futures also runs monthly groups, offering fantastic activities, such as meals out, laser tag, bowling, pottery painting and board game evenings. There really is something for everyone, to give carers a chance to have some time for themselves and socialise with other carers. Trix finds these groups an enormous source of support and sense of community.

Trix’s words of wisdom

Trix encourages other young carers to participate in the My Futures activities, she said, “Everybody gets it, and you don’t have to explain why you’re there.” Trix acknowledges that it can take time to feel comfortable and build trust, but the experience is worth it. She noted that seeing familiar faces – people they hadn’t realised were also carers – made a big difference.